Why Get Married Young?

June 29, 2017 BlessedMillennial 5 Comments

                                                     I am so happy to write this post!
Lately I've been hearing a lot of people "recommending" to our generation
that we should wait to get married!
                                       
                            For those of you who know me, know that my awesome hubby and I 
have been married for almost five years now. That's right at the ripe age of 20 and 21 we said "I Do"! 
Of course there has been hard times but these last four and a half years
have been the best of my life. 

So why are people telling us to wait on what may be the best time of a marriage life?

Well many people believe that men should already be well established in life before they bring their 
Queen to join their empire. 

 I do understand this reason, however my debate is that I feel like I appreciate what B and I have established together.
B and I started dating at 18 and we were fresh out of high school so we literally only had our hopes and dreams. We have seen each other grow in ways that made our marriage stronger. Building those dreams and aspirations together has really help us flourish as a team. 

Younger couples rely on parents to help them financially. 

I think this myth comes from the current age. It seems that more millennials are moving home after college graduates. We did not, since we were married after high school we learned to make it on our own. Honestly the fact that we moved to another state after getting married made us grind!! As a wife I also had to learn that my husband would never let us fail. That meant if a bill was due I had to learn that B would make sure it was paid no matter what and as a wife that is a hard thing to do!
BUT GOD!

Younger couples are more likely to get divorced after one year.  

I clearly disagree with this! Even looking back at our first year of marriage, I wouldn't do it over. It was a tough year for us! After giving our lives to Christ and joining out church our support system grew! We had the most important relationship. The closer we drew to God the closer we grew together.
I feel like that first year of marriage was the foundation for the empire we are building. The phrase "Til Death Due Us Part" is in our hearts!

We are not ready for marriage? 

My question to that is what makes you ready? Honestly tell me!
It does not matter what age you are, you can never get ready to open your heart and change your life to accommodate someone else's. Marriage is a learning process! I actually learn something new about bae everyday! Also people change! How can you foresee how someone will be in ten years or even ten days. The thing is changing with that person.
 Bae doesn't like peas as much as he used to so I don't cook peas often. It is a give and take.


These are just a few of the things we have heard from family and friends alike before getting married. We clearly do not have any advance over anyone. We do not claim to be smarter or more experienced. These are just a few things that made me realize that "Hey! We can do this thing!"

How do we do it?

The first step was giving our life to Jesus and when I saw that helped us everything!
If you are reading this and have no idea what it means to give your life to Jesus, email me and I will tell you what it means!

Until next time
Christ, Peace and Naps ✌🏿



5 comments:

  1. I agree with "what makes you ready?". Not everything in life you can prepare for. Some things you just jump in and put your best foot forward and never give up. With God, it'll all work out.

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  2. Great post! My husband and I got married at 21 and have been married 9 years this year. We found out last year that our best friends had made bets on whether or not we would make it past the 1st year!!!
    I think getting married so young is an asset for us. We have been through EVERYTHING together and it makes us more able to work as a team as opposed to a couple that has learned how to live as an individual and then re-learn how to live with another person.

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  3. Hi, I'm a millennial here. I've been in a long term relationships for 6 years and I still don't feel ready for marriage lol. And you're right...you'll never really feel ready.

    For me, it's a fear of divorce which, while I'm happy it's working for you, it is statistically higher the younger you get married. I mean, personally, I don't recognize who I was at the start of college vs now. And I think a lot of young people need those four years to truly discover who they are and what they want. Additionally, I want financial independence and whatnot before then.

    I'm glad I got to hear the perspective of someone who married young and wish you continued happiness!

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  4. Millennial here! I definitely want to get married but I want it to be at the right time in my life. I still have so much financially to get together first before dropping the big bucks on a wedding! Plus, I don't want a divorce. It's such a fear, especially because you always hear about how the divorce rate is so high. I think the younger millennials rely so much on their parents to much, and expect more to be given to them. This is a great post!

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  5. Fellow millennial with the same mindset! So nice to hear that marrying young has its perks! Unfortunatly I, am very single right now lol.

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